One year ago, I shared something I thought I just might never share. And, if I’m being honest, I sometimes question if I should have shared it at all. I often feel like going back and deleting my post since it still feels so vulnerable to put out there. But, visibility matters, as I know it has for me.
It kind of feels kind of like waiting for the jump-scare in a movie whenever I reveal or confirm that I’m a queer person to someone I think is straight. Like, do they think I’m weird now? Well, I am weird. You’ve seen how much I like space, right? I’m weird.
But, then sometimes I realize I don’t have be *such* a secretive little b*tch anymore and that in itself is progress. This year, I included my blog on my application for a new job, and was like “Yeah – I’m cool if they come across this.” So, perhaps, I feel more comfortable with myself, even if I’m not super comfortable talking to seemingly-straight people about it. I have the option to include it in casual conversation in a way that I simply wouldn’t have before. While I didn’t experience a massive moment of levity coming out as a queer person, I do I feel a gradual progressing towards a better future, as I learn to celebrate all sides of myself.
So happy Coming Out Day to all those who have done so, and cheers those who are still finding the strength, safety, and support to do so. Remember, your journey is your own and there is no right way or time besides the one you choose for yourself.
Read more about my experience here and here.
And, check out some helpful resources put together by the Human Rights Campaigns to support queer people and allies.
